Carl,
Reasonable advice although the risks are extremely low so IMO you overstate them. The forum has a series of stickies and a big
READ THE RENOVATE FORUM ASBESTOS STICKIES
They Contain Important Safety Information reminder on the thread for all members to read them first. They have a range of discussions and some differing views, but also links to the official asbestos information sites for each jurisdiction. No one inquiring on here can say they didn't get access to good advice - mainly to take proper care.
And if I knew I had to remove asbestos, and my State allowed me to remove more than 10sqm and dispose of it properly, then I would happily do it with my mate, but using the same care, safety precautions and procedures that any professional would be required to use and advised by authorities. In fact because it was me, my home and my family and my mate I probably would take greater care!
The sorts of exposures you are referring to relates to the significant exposure to asbestos fibres such as occurred up to the mid 80s which caused the illness and deaths we are now seeing - that level of exposure is simply not possible to get in Australia now. Most of that exposure was direct with no safety gear at all in use and those who smoked were several times more likely to get ill and die.
So we need a cautious and careful approach - not a fearful one IMO.