Well done on getting this built in between the ankle biter sleeps. Personally I would just sand the entire deck with 40 grit to start off with. This will take all of the weathered & stained timber back to a new surface. Then repeat with 80 grit. I could sand this deck in say 3 hours with 40 grit & less than 1 hour with 80 grit. Then just hose off all remaining dust , let dry & do the coating. Don't worry about ant weathering comments. The weathering concept IMO is just someone's fantasy idea written down on some label that someone thought was necessary . Someone read it & thought this sounds good & then all of a sudden it became gospel.
I have yet to find anything written for HOW a deck weathers when built under a roof. I have seen a lot of decks "weathering" but loyal homeowners that are just a mess. Grease stains from the puppies bone, grease from dad drinking to much beer while not concentrating on the cooking-burning meat.Wine stains, icecream stains etc.
Wear any dust mask you are comfortable wearing. I would try & rig a vacuum hose to the sander direct. Getting into nooks can be a little challenging like corners. Just get a small cork block & wrap sandpaper around it & use some muscles
Good luck
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